Dollys Relationships » Guys talk

Once a Cheater, always a Cheater?

dolly — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:10:25 +0000

I wanna know your opinions on this! What do you think? If you’ve ever been cheated on, did you forgive him/her? Does the trust ever come back? Do you think its possible to cheat only once and quit the habit? Is it fair to say that everyone makes mistakes and we should just forgive? Is it worth a second chance?

I wanna know what you think!

Threesome with my future wife?

dolly — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:48:19 +0000

Hey Dolly,

My girl and I are getting married in a few months. She’s been asking me for a while now what kind of fantasy I want fulfilled during our weekend together before our wedding. We are taking a mini-vacation 2 months before the wedding. I really what to have a threesome with my future wife and another girl but I’m not sure how she’ll take it.

Should I just go ahead and ask her? She’s very laid back and I’m not sure if thats her thing but she said she wants to fulfill one of my fantasies on this trip. I’ve heard from a friend of mine that something like this could mess up our relationship. Is this true?

From: Alan* in Colorado

* The name has been changed

Alan,

First off, Congratulations. I hope both of you are very happy together. Also, seems to me like you have a good woman on your hands. The fact that she’s very laid back but is willing to fulfill a fantasy to please you is a good thing.

Now, the simple answer to your question would be to ask her! Whats the worst that could happen? She’ll say she doesn’t want to invite another woman into yall’s sex life and thats it. I know a few people who have had many sexual experiences with their husbands (including threesomes) and this didn’t seem to affect their marriage negatively.

However, some other couples actually have serious dificulty reviving their relationship after having a threesome. It all depends on the nature of the relationship and intimacy you have. For example: Is you fiancee very jealous? Has she ever mentioned making out with a girl while in college or at some wild party? If she wanted a similar fantasy fulfilled, would you be willing to do it? Have you considered if a stranger or friend would be the appropriate way to go? Is this fantasy mainly about your fiancee being with another woman while you watch or do you want them both to please you?

Once you answer these questions, it should better help you understand what exactly you Should do. Unfortunately (as I mentioned before), this works very differently with various couples and so I can’t give you a definite answer on what to do. I can only tell you to talk to her about it and ask yourself the questions I have listed above. This will definitely help you make the best decision…but communication is key!

More question? No problem. Email me back!

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Giving great head…Its NOT like eating an apple!

dolly — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:29:56 +0000

This is an art…call it a gift if you want. I’ve seen some people give head to a woman and feel sorry for her. I’m not here to bash some men for not being great at oral sex. Believe it or not, everyone that gives great head learned it! I can promise you somethin though: Give her the most pleasurable oral sex she’s ever had and she’s hooked for life! Trust me on this…

I was discussing this topic with some girlfriends and you can soooo tell when a woman is satisfied with her man’s “oral sex-giving” skills. Admittedly, half of the problem is that some ladies don’t tell yall when it doesn’t feel good. Some people shy away from the topic while others don’t want to mess up your self-esteem/ ego.

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But for things to get better, trust me, we have to talk about it! And you have to be willing to put your pride aside and talk about it too. Let her show you her body…and show you what pleases her! I would like to encourage you to try to ask her to pleasure herself while you watch. Trust me, this makes a difference.

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Not only does it help you get aroused, but it also helps her! At the same time, when you see her moan, you can take mental notes to be applied later! Have fun!

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Should you trim your pubic hair?

dolly — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:52:28 +0000

Its definitely a matter of personal preference if you want to shave your pubic hair. Some women actually find a well-groomed genetalia to be part of foreplay! I do know one thing for sure though…trimmed hair makes oral sex more enjoyable and easier for us to perform as women!

Here’s what women have unanimously said: Performing oral sex on a man and having all his hairs in your mouth makes it a lot harder (ewww, right?). Nobody wants to have a mouth-full of hair after giving their man head…and then she’s probably grossed out and this destroys the mood.

Some couples wanna shave eachother because it actually turns them on. If you are in this category then by all means, knock yourself out! But, if you are like me, and you would rather do this in private, then thats prefectly fine too. Either way, just make sure you are clean and tidy “down there” and you’ll be surprised how much more willing your girl wants to go down on you!

Don’t skip the foreplay…

dolly — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:12:50 +0000

Most women need more than 3 minutes of foreplay before actual penetration. Who doesn’t want a hot, turned-on woman? If thats your goal, then you need to put in some work to get her there. Now, there’s nothing wrong with a quickie every now and then but when you want to “go in” for the long haul, don’t skip foreplay!

Find out what she likes…some ladies are turned out by the smallest things like rubbing her clit or her breasts…while with some others, you have to do a little bit more like caressing with your finger(s) half-way inside her, teasing her with you tongue on her breasts or performing oral sex. Either way it goes, you have to figure out what she’s into…either through trials or by asking her!

I can promise you something: Get your woman hot enough in bed and you’ll be excitingly surprised at what she’s capable of doing! That innocent “lady” will absolutely lose her self-control and give you the best sexual encounter you’ve ever had—EVER!

Why do women fake orgasms?

dolly — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 13:00:19 +0000

A male reader reached out to me and asked why women sometimes fake orgasms with our men in bed. Jake was confused because if a woman is not having an orgasm, then why fake one? He talked to a couple of guy friends and they all decided to join forces and “confront” us. Below was my answer:

Jake,

I dunno about you guys but I wouldn’t want my woman faking an orgasm. But isn’t the better question…why is she faking an orgasm? Is it because the sex is no good? Or is she just hard to please? Ok, so that was more than one question, lol!

You wanna hear somethin funny? About 70% of women haved faked at least 1 orgasm in bed! The reason why men cannot fake an orgasm like we can is cos you can tell when a man is hard. Pleasure with men is easy…just grab and go! But with women, the only way you can tell we’re excited is if we get wet. Here are a few reasons why your girl might be faking:

1) She’s afraid she’s taking too long to have an orgasm so she fakes it

2) She aint in the mood but she doesn’t wanna hurt your feelings

3) She’s tired

4) She’s in pain and wants to get it over with (yep, big penises are not always a good thing!)

The bad thing about all this is that yall end up not knowing what works. What can you do? Talk to your girl. Make her comfortable enough to talk to you about what gets her off. Let her tell you the best way to give her the best orgasm ever…and trust me, she’ll return the favor!