5 reasons you should leave him…
Hey girl! There’s always something about your man that makes you question being with him? Have no fear for you’re not alone. You know how we are sometimes: Breaking up with a guy for extremely awkward reasons (or no reasons at all, if you’re like my friend Michelle*) is not the plan here. But here are some reasons why you should run…Fast!
1) You’re doing all the work in the relationship. Are you the one initiating all the dates? Planning where to go on your dates? Are you the only one calling and texting him? Its either of two things: He’s just not that into you but he’s a nice guy and doesn’t wanna hurt your feelings…or he’s just not a big believer in putting in any work in a relationship. Either way, I suggest you move on.
2) He’s constantly cheating on you. This is definitely a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you or the relationship enough to be faithful. Notice that I said “constantly?” We all have our rules as far as dealing with a partner when he cheats once. Some people have a “no tolerance” rule while some are a little more linient and understanding. But if he’s clearly cheating on you often, then you should simply leave him.
3) He’s emotionally or physically abusive. This is a major reason! Some of us make the mistake of believing that as long as a spouse dosn’t put his hands on us, then he’s not abusive. Quite wrong, actually. Some men are emotionally abusive. Statements such as “Why can’t you ever do anything right?” or “I was warned about useless females like you” or things of that nature are definitely abusive. All curse words are abusive also. No, he’s not allowed to yell “Bitch” or “Whore” at you!
4) He has a dangrously crazy jealous streak. Its cute and all when your man is jealous and gives other guys a mean look if they “size you up with their eyes.” However, if he punches every guy that he sees talking to you…or gets ridiculously violent when a guy passes you by at the grocery store and takes a second look—then I hate to tell you this but…you need to let him go. Its not a good thing at all when he can’t control himself and becomes violent. Even though he’s not violent towards you right now, it could easily become directed at you over time. You also don’t want to freak out everytime a guy friend of yours is having an innocent conversation with you.
5) He wants you to himself ALL the time! Love it when a man wants to spend time with his woman and wants her around. However, you should draw the line when he doesn’t want you to spend any time with friends, family or co-workers. Does he get angry when you have to leave the house to spend time with someone else?
There has to be a healthy balance and you should not be expected to spend every last second with him! At this point, he’s become obsessive and slightly controlling. Bad news! Run…
Some related postPosted on 23 October '09 by dolly, under relationships, sex.
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