Don’t start what you can’t finish…
This goes for everyone in a relationship or most importantly…anyone going into a one: Don’t go into a relationship doing things that you cannot continue doing! Oh, there are so many examples to choose from here. I’ll share an experience from a friend of mine. I felt the need to keep her exact words so I’ll just quote her all the way:
“I went out with this guy, right? Firstly, we met at a party. He seemed like a nice guy and after chatting for awhile at the party, we exchanged numbers. He called me the very next day to ask for a date. I obliged and it was set for that weekend. He picked me up in a Mercedes…one of those convertible ones. We told me he was taking me to his favorite restaurant and I had no problem with that. This is Atlanta and we all know how expensive some restaurants are out here. Anyway, he picked out one of the most expensive ones in Buckhead.
Personally, I think the food is a little overrated and I would have LOVED to go to Chilis instead for the delicious food and affordable price. However, I thought to myself, this guy seems to be doing great and I’m sure he can afford this. At dinner, he told me he was an Investment Banker. “Nice,” I thought to myself. All through the night, he told me about what he had and all that stuff: The nice 4 bedroom house, 2 cars, blah blah. Hmmm, Superficial man, huh? “Its just a date,” I kept thinking.
At the end of the night, he dropped me off at home and said he’d call me later. I immediately got on the phone with my girlfriends and we chatted about the whole thing. Well, it turned out that one of my girlfriends actually knew him through another friend. To cut the story short, Tim was a college student living off his student loans; the Mercedes was a rental and the 4-bedroom house? His parents! Yep, he lived at home.
Needless to say, I didn’t go out with him again! It wasn’t because he wasn’t rich. It was because he LIED!”
—Nema
Ok, so most of you are thinking that Tim’s case was excessive. However, there are so many other things people lie about on the first date and they “hope” the other person will magically “forget” all these things later! Not the case, people! You build yourself up into this certain expectation and you expect the other person to be very willing to simply drop every lie you told?
Don’t tell bogus lies on your first date (or ever). It WILL come back to hunt you in the ass. If you don’t cook, don’t lie about it. If you are allergic to cats and he has one, don’t lie and say you absolutely love cats. If you’ve never been on a cruise, don’t say you have. If you hate sports, don’t lie about an obsession with sports…you’ll be miserable everytime he makes you go to a game! You get the idea…don’t make up things that are false!
Tiny little false statements like compliments towards his mom? Different case. Thats something you’re almost obligated to do. Be sure you can tell the difference between a very tiny compliment when you’re trying to be nice and something major. You WILL have to live up to ‘em later!
Some related postPosted on 21 September '09 by dolly, under relationships.
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