Don’t sweat the petty things…
Relationships are tough…this is not new information, is it? I didn’t think so. Now, there are several ways to ease the stress in your relationship and make it more enjoyable for you and your partner. One of the ways to do this is: “Don’t sweat the petty things” Simple enough?
Couples fight every now and then. No two people are the same and due to this, we’re bound to have disagreements with our partners. The key is to be reasonable in your arguments. Don’t verbally hurt the other person as words can never be taken back. Arguments should not be about proving that you’re right. Its about solving the issues in your relationship and remembering the whole time that you’re both on the same side…except that you see things from different perspectives.
Here’s where I’m going with this: Don’t get upset about the small insignificant things. Of course, its inevitable that you will have pet peeves that you simply can’t stand about your spouse while someone else doesn’t see this as a big deal. I’m not asking you to consult other people to see what the general concept is about a certain subject. However, as we ALL know, there are some things that can simply be overlooked but, we decide to bring it up for several reasons, which we all justify within ourselves: Proving to the other person that we’re smarter, showing the other person that you are right and he is wrong or whatever other reasons.
At the end of the day, it becomes a huge fight/ argument and both parties are upset at each other for a while. All this drama can be avoided if you simply stop seeing this as a competition and more as a relationship and partnership. Avoid getting angry on small things. Be honest with yourself and determine if something is small enough to be overlooked.
Now, here’s another tip: If there is a problem and you need to talk to your spouse about it, pick a good time! If your spouse has had a very long day at work and after fighting through traffic, he finally gets home. This is NOT a good time to bring up the problem at home or anything else that will stress him out. I promise you this: 9 times out of 10, when we bring up issues right after our spouse gets home from work, it becomes an argument/fight. The only exception to this rule is that discussing the problem absolutely cannot wait. Timing is everything and even with that, don’t sweat the petty things. It could be one of the things that helps your relationship.
Some related postPosted on 16 August '09 by dolly, under relationships.
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