If he’s ONLY texting you…
So this will be a personal story: A couple of years ago, I met this guy, Andrew, at a club. He seemed interesting enough and he really seemed to like me. We basically spent the entire night together at the club…dancing, flirting and talking. Well, at the end of the night, he asked for my number and I took his too. He texted me the next day to see how I was doing and all that. We started to communicate only through text messages. Then after about 2 weeks of texting, he asked if I could come over and spend a saturday night with him.
I hesitated but went over to his place anyway (yes, this was a HUGE mistake!). After about 20 minutes of entertaining me with snacks and conversation, he wanted to move things to the bedroom. Gosh, I had a certain weakness for him because he was so cute and seemed to pay me every attention possible, I guess.
We moved it over to the bedroom and had sex. it was really good and he even made me breakfast in the morning. I left and went home later on that day. The whole day went by and he didn’t text or call (although in his defense, he NEVER called me before anyway).
After a week, I gave up on him but I felt like I needed some closure so I texted him. After a few hours, I got a reply that said “Sorry. I’ve been really busy. I’ll check on you later, ok?” Wow, that was pretty much the last time I heard from Andrew.
What did I learn from this experience all those years ago? There were a few things that went wrong right from the beginning: We actually never spoke over the phone and this was a mistake. When a guy sticks to just texting, it is a clear sign that he only wants to have sex in the near future. This is also a sign that he’s actually mass-texting almost every girl he knows and simply waiting to hear a response from everyone so he can make the next move.
Another thing that went wrong? Whenever you meet a guy at a club, the chances of him being a “boyfriend” later on is pretty slim. I’m not saying this hasn’t happened before but when you meet a guy at the club and want to make a serious relationship from this, don’t be too surprised if it doesn’t happen.
Last: He didn’t bother to hear my voice over the phone. This might have prompted him to love having conversations with me and actually miss talking to me when he hadn’t heard from me in a while. Believe it or not, texting is very different from talking. When you actually hear someone’s voice, it makes a difference and the person actually took the time to talk to you…as compared to text-messaging where the person is probably also texting 5 or 6 other people. Talking gives room for one-on-one attention while texting does not. Period.
Some related postPosted on 17 July '09 by dolly, under relationships, sex.
#1 Posted by Samantha Chives (18.07.09 at 22:07 )
Times have definitely changed because calling “texting” a relationship is weird on its own anyway. Plus, I think another mistake is the fact that you met this guy at a club. From experience, its not the best place to find a potential mate.
#2 Posted by How I Lost 30 Pounds in 30 Days Without Diet (23.07.09 at 19:43 )
Thanks for posting about this, I would like to read more about this topic.
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