Post Break-up…his friend wants you!
Ok so, tough one, huh? Actually, not so much! Haley was dating Frank and they broke up. They had only dated for about 6 months but she had pretty much met most of Frank’s friends while they were together. After the break-up, Richard, one of Frank’s friends, went ahead and asked Haley out. She decided to give it a shot and that relationship too was short-lived.
When we got together and talked about this, I asked her how Frank felt seeing his friend and his ex-girlfriend together. She said he was fine with it and even made jokes about the whole thing. Here’s why it was wrong from the beginning: When you date a guy and he is happy to pass you onto his friend, it is NEVER okay! I won’t tell you that you should never date someone from your ex’s group of friends but I WILL tell you this much: If your ex seems fine with the whole thing, then he probably already told his friend something freaky about you, and asked his friend to “try her out.”
I know this seems harsh and all but it’s the truth. Due to this piece of information, you cannot date his friend and expect it to go well. He probably just wants to play around with you (and your feelings too). However, if he seems pretty upset about the fact that you are dating his friend, then this is a better thing for you!
Here’s also a little bit of work you have to do: You should know what kind of relationship you guys had while you were together. If it was one of those “mainly sexual” relationships, then you CANNOT (see how that word is bold and CAPITALIZED?!) date his friend. Period. There are no “ifs” “ands” or “buts” to this rule! This is because he was never really serious with you, so what kind of image do you think he has given his friends about you?!
Now, if you are in doubt, I just say…date someone else completely outside of that circle! There are a heck lot more men out there and you should just go for someone else!
Some related postPosted on 28 July '09 by dolly, under relationships, sex.
#1 Posted by Samantha Chives (28.07.09 at 20:03 )
Yea, about things like this, you always wanna stay on the safe side and simply get rid of him and his friends altogether! It will always get messy after time
#2 Posted by Anonymous (30.07.09 at 12:47 )
I hooked up with my ex-boyfriend’s friend and it worked out great. I’m not saying that its always this way with everyone else but its not a fair generalization to say people can’t do that.
#3 Posted by Zashkaser (05.08.09 at 23:18 )
Wait…which one is Britney?
#4 Posted by Sdanektir (06.08.09 at 18:56 )
I rarely comment on blogs but yours I had to stop and say Great Blog!!
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