Looking for love in ALL the wrong places…
Do you ever feel like you are doing everything you possibly can and still can’t find the right man? Or as some women say “There are not enough good men to go around!”
I hate to break it to you but…There ARE good men left out there. The problem is that you’re looking in all the wrong places. Lets begin…
Perfect example: My girlfriends and I love to have fun. I kinda enjoy doing it all…movies, shopping, road trips, cruises, clubbing, dinner…and so much more. However, one of my girls, Alicia enjoys going to the club more than anything else. I jokingly asked her once why she enjoys clubbing over everything else and her response was NOT what I expected.
She’s been single for a while…brief relationships back and forth over the last 3 years. She told me she goes to the club because she could potentially find a mate. I then said, “Are you trying to get a good stable man or you just want a fling? Of course she was like “Duh, I told you I’m ready to settle down!” I love my girl but I had to tell her she’s going about this the wrong way.
Ladies, if you want a quick fling here and there, then the club is the perfect place for this. However, if you are like Alicia and you want a relationship that has potential of becoming long-term, then STAY AWAY FROM THE CLUB. Aint nothing wrong in going to the club but some people go clubbing 2 or 3 times a week!!!! Can we say “over-excessive?” I mean, you want to hear the truth, right?
That girlfriend of yours that either just got married or is about to get married is not “better” than you are. She simply went about this differently.
Think about it: 90% of people at the club have had either a drink or two. Their judgment at this point is impaired. Even the ones that are not drunk are “buzzed” by all the craziness they see going on around them. The other 10%? Well, these guys potentially wouldn’t take you seriously because unfortunately, men believe that women that go clubbing are simply easy to get. Something else most of us don’t realize? Most men tend to go to the club to hopefully have a one-night stand. Be honest: How many men have you talked to that told you “I’m heading to the club to find the right women for me…the kind of woman I can take home to mom…the woman I will potentially marry.” Zip. Nada. Most of the men you will meet at the club are just there to have fun. The few others that are willing to give a relationship a shot however would probably try that with “non-partying girls.”
Long story short: You want a shot at a serious relationship with a man that wants more than sex? Stop looking for him at the club! Expand your mind into more fun things. My girlfriend that got married last year met her husband on a tennis court. My friends, Samantha and Kirk? They met at a friend’s birthday party. I met my fiancé through his cousin at a get-together. You see where this is going? There are so many other places to get prospective relationships. Save the club for fun moments and not finding your future husband!
Some related postPosted on 24 September '09 by dolly, under relationships, sex.
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