Signs he’s just NOT into you…
This is as old as time itself! Girl meets guy. Girl instantly likes guy. Guy tells girl he’s not interested (or available) for a relationship. Girl says its fine and they can be friends…when in reality, Girl wants more…much more.
Here are 2 ways it can go down:
Scenario 1: He can start sleeping with you.Eh…why not? He’s single. You’re single and willing. What’s so wrong with him having sex with you when he’s horny or bored? Harsh? Well, that’s the point! He probably wouldn’t tell you all this. No…he’ll just keep giving you bullshit excuses as to why he “can’t get into a relationship right now…” You eat it up. All of it. In your head, he likes you and just has a lot going on right now so you don’t wanna make things harder for him. He’ll come around later, right? Ummmmm, WRONG!!!
Scenario 2: He DOESN’T even bother messing with you at all. You keep trying but he keeps you in the friend zone and throws you sexy smiles from time to time and tells you how “amazing you are” and how he’s just so “lucky to have you” in his life. You feed on this and just keep waiting. Hoping. Praying that he comes around.
Boy…I hate to break this to you. But in whichever scenario, you’re gonna get hurt. Lemme guess: You know someone who knows someone who found her husband through one of these methods, right? Yes, we ALWAYS hear those stories. Here’s the truth: Most of those stories are JUST that…stories. Fibs. Whatever term you prefer. Now, I’m sure there’s some girl out there who was the exception for some guy she ended up marrying, having kids with and being happy with forever.
But, the BIGGEST problem is that every woman thinks she’s the exception. This isn’t the case. Yes, we are all special in our own way and any man would be lucky to have us. Do you want to find a good man or not? Then, stop wasting time on all that hallmark BS and take control of your love life! Stop hanging around these men. It’s not helping at all. Not only is he wasting your time…time you could be spending to find a good man, but you’re also gonna end up hurt. And alone. And angry. And cynical.
If a man wants you, you’ll know it. Men are simple creatures. When they know you’re equally interested, they’ll make a move by asking you out on a date. Plain and Simple. If a guy always asks you to hang out with him and his friends…and never wants you to himself, RUN! If he doesn’t pay attention to anything you say but wants to get you naked, RUN! If he tells you he just has SO much going on and can’t handle a relationship “right now”…RUN! I’m telling you, you’re better off getting out of these situations before they get started and you’re emotionally caught up!
Some related postPosted on 8 March '11 by dolly, under Let's Talk, relationships.
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