The right man IS out there…
Here’s a personal story from a dear friend of mine. I hope you learn a thing or two from her experiences!
–I was 25. I had everything figured out. I had gone through four years of college and got a pretty awesome job doing exactly what I love best: Teaching math to middle school kids. Might not be every one’s cup of tea but I sooo love my job! I was also engaged to an incredible man whom I couldn’t live without (or so I thought).
During freshman year in college, I met an incredible guy, Justin, who was the absolute love of my life (in that 18 year-old kinda way). He was a Finance major and we instantly connected. We spent almost everyday together: studying, hanging out, talking on the phone and simply gazing into each other’s eyes.
Naturally, it wasn’t surprising when he proposed to me right after graduation, about 4 years after we met. I said Yes! I couldn’t imagine life without him and he was just as in love with me. I got hired at a nearby Middle School and Justin also got a job as a Financial advisor in a Bank. Life was good and we started planning the wedding!
Well, a few months into the whole wedding preparation, Justin started asking several questions…”How are we sure we’re making the right move?” and “We’ve been together since we can rememeber. What if we’re meant to see other people?” This is not exactly what a wife-to-be wants to hear…months before the wedding! As hard as it was, I knew what I had to do and broke off the engagement. It was the most painful thing I had to do and it was even worse to see that Justin seemed relieved…
What was I going to do? We had already picked out the area in the city we wanted to live; and how many kids we wanted; and if we wanted a dog or cat; and what we wanted to do together on our 10th year anniversary!
After this, we did what most couples did and still closely kept in touch. Whenever anything happened in my class with my students or headmistress, he was the first one I called to share it with. When someone broke into my apartment, he was my first phone call too. He would also call me when he either got depressed over something or simply to proclaim his undying love for me and how he wished he could get over whatever was going on with him “so we can fix us.”
After about 8 weeks of this undefined relationship we had going on, I talked to one of my friends who still kept in touch with Justin too. Turned out that he was in a relationship with another girl and had been since about 3 weeks after WE broke up. I called him and after going off for about 10 minutes, I finally told him to delete any means of contacting me. He simply said he was sorry and hung up. That was it.
I just want to quickly say this: Life is so much easier when you are surrounded by awesome friends who are there to walk you through anything at all. My girlfriends and I took several trips to the beach and went to several parties and one of them actually moved in because she feared what I would do if I was alone, lol (I love you, Gwen!). I was slowly getting over Justin and getting back out there. After about two other failed mini-relationships that lasted about 3 months each, I met Kirk.
He was the new history teacher and the kids couldn’t get enough of him. He actually brought history to life and made the kids look forward to his class (what a talent! 
. After about 2 weeks of shyly flirting with each other, he asked me out. I think I blurted “yes!”
We dated for about 6 months and it was the most comfortable and natural thing I’ve ever done. In that short time, we were there for eachother through some pretty tough times. I lost a very close friend of mine and Kirk was there for me through everything. After our 6 month anniversary, he proposed to me and although I had several issues with going down this path again, Kirk was assertive that he wanted me for the rest of his life. It took another 6 months to plan the wedding and finally walk down the aisle.
We’ve been married mow for about 2 years. This man makes me so happy. He brings out the best in me and I love him so much. I can barely remember life without him. This man was made for me as I was for him. We have so much fun around each other and he’s honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me. Sometimes in the midst of heartbreak, confusion and depression, we find love.”
-From Grace in Houston*
My friend was nice enough to let me share her story with you.
*Name has been changed.
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