You wanna know what men think?
Here’s something new! I hung out with a couple of guys the other day and it was quite interesting hearing how men think! Most of my male friends have always seen me as one of the guys so it becomes easier to have conversations with them and actually see what makes men do certain things…so, here we go ladies! I’m gonna spill it all!
Calvin, who is the most outspoken of all my guy friends, was venting about his relationship with Meg. “If only women could understand how things work in our heads, life would be that much easier!”
Ladies, this is coming directly from men:
~They want a woman that can communicate without criticism. If there’s something on your mind, say it! This sounds easy but what most of us do (and yall Know this is true, lol) is tie everything together. “Oh, I asked you to help me with the dishes. I knew you wouldn’t get to it! Its just like I asked you to clean the yard last week and you didn’t get to that either. But then when its time to have sex, you’re the first one in line! Why are yall men so….” See where this is going? Yea, a fight! Stick to the issue at hand!
~They want to feel needed. Men want a woman that is secure enough to take care of herself but still wants him around to help with some things. As much as you think otherwise, they like the occassional, “Baby, my car sounds funny. I need your help” or “I need you to help me lift something.” I know this sounds unnecessary but men need an ego boost once in awhile to make them feel capable of taking care of us.
~They want to hang out with the guys once in a while without us nagging them. This is pretty self explanatory! The “boys” should never some first but let him have some breathing space. When he leaves to go hang out with his friends, its not because he doesn’t love you or he’s tired of you. Stop nagging! Its because we all need a change of scenery sometimes and just want someone else to talk to. Isn’t that what our girls are for too?
~Stop trying to make your man just like you. You like Ballet and he doesn’t? Great! You enjoy tennis and he doesn’t? Big deal! The fact is that if your man was just like you, would you sincerely want to date him? We are all different so let him be comfortable in his own element. He’s not a caged bird so let him be into whatever he’s into. You’ll never find a man to agree with you 100%
~Give out praises from time to time. I know that for most of us, this seems far fetched. Why should you praise him for doing 1 thing right but doing 9 other things wrong? Well, it actually makes them want to be better at things when they notice that we notice what they do. Ladies, I’ve personally tried this one out before and it works! I decided to give it a shot and tell my man that I appreciate all he does. Now, trust me, there are so many things I complain about him not doing that simply drives me nuts. But over the last couple of months when I started giving him praises on the little things, I’m shocked to say things have miraculously changed for the better! He’s more than happy to try harder because he knows that I appreciate him! Talk about men and their ego!
Some related postPosted on 13 September '09 by dolly, under relationships.
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