You’re the other woman?
So, in the previous blog The other woman is NOT the problem… I had to convince you (or at least tried to) that the other woman is unfortunately NOT to blame for you man’s infidelity. Understandably, being human, we’re bound to get upset if we find our other half cheating. However, launching our attacks on the other woman is never the answer. The cheating spouse owes us the loyalty. Now, with this said, lets get on the other side!
You met him by being the other woman? Please don’t try to ask surprised when/if he cheats on you with another woman! This is simply a pattern he has been exhibiting for a while (which is how he met you to start with). Therefore, its highly probable that he’ll do it again. Except this time, you’ll know how his former significant other felt when he cheated on her with you!
Actually, to be quite honest, you’re still in a better position than she was when he started showing signs of cheating. Let me guess, when he met you, he fed you lines like “I don’t love her anymore,” or “I’ve always felt like we weren’t meant to be together. YOU are my one true love,” or my personal favorite, “We’re separated…just still working out the legal aspects of it. The marriage in itself is over”…or something to that effect. Whatever line he’s feeding you, its been said before! The truth is thus: If a man really believes (for whatever reason) that his marriage is over, then he’ll sort out the divorce and living arrangements and everything else. He will NOT want to drag that extra baggage into the next relationship. But some men do this because we let them. Ladies, we gotta start saying “NO.” Don’t make it so easy for him to fool around with you and then go home to his wife. If you’re letting him do that, why do you think he’ll want to give this lifestyle up???
Think about this: If he’s able to sleep with you and sleep with his wife, what would be the point in giving that up? You’re giving him a chance to eat his cake and have it too! There’s nothing wrong with a divorced man…we all take chances in life with someone else and get married. For some people it works out, and others are not so fortunate. There’s nothing wrong with dating a divorved man. But did you catch that? A divorced man! I didn’t say a “I’m still with my wife but I plan on leaving her for you” man or a “We don’t love eachother anymore and she knows that” man!
Most women wait around for a long time…just patiently waiting for a married man to leave his wife for her. And then when this doesn’t happen, she turns around and blames the man for wasting her time and breaking her heart. You shouldn’t have given him your heart to start with. Why, you ask? Because he never gave you his! If he truly wants to give it a real shot with you, he will sort everything out before stepping to you…out of respect for you! You’ve given up all rights to ask for his respect after you allow him to make you the other woman!
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